The Cost of Unforgiveness
September 24, 2023 | Finally Free, Forgiveness, Hurt, Peace, Series, Sermons, Topics


The Cost of Unforgiveness

The truth? Holding onto anger, bitterness and hurt will slowly destroy your life. Living with unforgiveness in your heart hurts your walk with God, your relationships with others, and your own emotional health.

Unforgiveness produces damaging emotion and damaging emotions must be displaced by forgiveness. Unforgiveness is the refusal to release someone free from the obligation that resulted when they injured you. So often, behind the things we struggle with is unresolved hurt. To experience the freedom Christ offered in increasing measure, we must learn to live with forgiveness.

Open God’s Word to Ephesians 4 to recognize “The Cost of Unforgiveness”. Be sure to stay to the end, as we will also learn about the blessing of forgiveness!

That’s Not What a Kiss is For
April 8, 2022 | Crisis, Hurt, Injustice, Sermons, Single Messages



Betrayal. It hits the hardest, hurts the most, and lingers the longest.

On the list of life’s bludgeonings, betrayal is at the top. Yet God in His grace, permitted His own Son – who least deserved it – to most deeply experience this matter of betrayal. How gracious of our Father to allow that and to inspire the Holy Spirit to record it in Scripture, so we can, through it, identify more closely with our Savior.

Pastor James preached this faith-building message from John 13.

5 Reasons To Forgive
August 16, 2020 | Forgiveness, God's forgiveness, Healing, Hurt, Reconciliation, Series, Sermons, Vertical Living, Verticality


God accepts no love from human hearts that are gripped by hate.
In Vertical Living, we have come to discover from God’s word that mercy halts offense by withholding and grace limits offense by covering. In this sermon, we will see how forgiveness ends offense by releasing. While there are many rationalizations for our unforgiveness – Scripture offers a roadmap for the vehicle of forgiveness which leads to freedom from self incarceration and a lifetime of bitterness.

Matthew 6:14-15,18:21-35

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Matthew 6:14-15,18:21-35


Unchanging Reality
May 12, 2020 | Devotionals, God's love, Healing, Hurt

Today’s Devotional

“The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing” (Zephaniah 3:17, ESV).

God the Father is able to heal the hurt of every human heart, and Zephaniah 3:17 gives us glimpses of how He does it.

For some wounds, Father God gives His own, healing presence. “He will quiet you by his love.” What will the Father do? He will quiet you. In the Hebrew, there’s no word for “you,” though it’s clearly implied. It actually reads, “He will quiet with his love.” With His presence, He will quiet you, and He will also quiet Himself.

God’s love never changes. It doesn’t grow with your success; it doesn’t diminish with your failure.

When you’re hurting, the worst support can be the person who rushes in with a thousand things to say, like “I know how you feel.” People say so much, yet the One who could say everything says nothing at first. No judgment. No condemnation. No questioning. No pressure for you to explain. Just there, present with you. Silent.

He will quiet Himself, and He will quiet you. He will quiet your mind that reviews, reviews, reviews. He will quiet your heart that hurts, hurts, hurts. He will quiet your mouth that might lash out in pain to hurt others.

How does He quiet you? With His love. When He breaks the silence, He will be singing over you a song. The song is about the Father’s love—His immense, unchanging, unrelenting, undeserved, all-forgiving, all-knowing, all-penetrating, all-healing love for you.

And for other types of wounds, Father God gives faithful, unchanging reality. His love is a certainty. God’s enduring, unassailable, unimpeachable, unqualified, unconditional love for His children is your reality. His love never changes. It doesn’t grow with your success; it doesn’t diminish with your failure. This verse settles the issue: He “will save,” “will rejoice,” “will quiet,” “will exult.” Knowing what God will do gives you confidence in Him. Not your mom. Not your dad. Not your past. Not your regrets. God’s love to you in Christ is your reality. You don’t deserve it. You didn’t earn it. It doesn’t come with good behavior, nor is it forfeited with bad behavior, because it’s not from you. It’s from God, who needs nothing. In His grace, He sets His love upon you.

And celebration is coming. “He will exult over you with loud singing.” God exults over you. This is your reality. Not what your boss says. Not your past. Not your problems. God is delighting in you this moment, singing a love song over you.

Human words can never capture God’s love. This song might be the closest we can get. The words of the third stanza of “The Love of God,” by F. M. Lehman, were written by a Jewish rabbi, circa 1050 AD.

Could we with ink the ocean fill,
And were the skies of parchment made,
Were every stalk on earth a quill,
And every man a scribe by trade;
To write the love of God above
Would drain the ocean dry;
Nor could the scroll contain the whole,
Though stretched from sky to sky.

This is our reality: the infinite love of God. Whatever your earthly family or friends aren’t, you have a Father in heaven who loves you immensely.


  • What heart wounds do you need healed?
  • Deep down, do you really believe God loves you?

Father, so many of us are the walking wounded. And You, our perfect heavenly Father, want to heal us. You give us Yourself—Your presence and the unchanging reality of Your love. I can’t begin to grasp how much You love me. Give me faith to believe You are singing over me the Father’s song of love. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Get Ready: Day 14
February 25, 2020 | Crisis, Devotionals, Hurt, Trials


“A voice cries: In the wilderness prepare the way of the Lord; make straight in the desert a highway for our God.” Isaiah 40:3

What does “wilderness” mean in Scripture? And what can I be confident God is doing when my life is like a “wilderness”?

40 Days of Preparation… Get ready!